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Sunday, 10 July 2016

Lessons from the past year - part one

It's been over a year and in that time I've learnt quite a bit. Actually it's what I've spent most of that time doing. Learnt a thing or two about photography, met some cool people in the business. I did a lot of self study on business management, advertising, marketing, branding, graphics design, web development etc. Recently I quitted my teaching job to become a full-time creative artist and also to create time to study ahead for a master program. Coming from a background in mathematics which is basically science and delving into the art world could be quite something or okay depends on how you look at it.

The point of this post is to share an important life lesson I had to figure out on my own. You see I've always been in search of myself, I was looking for the one thing where I'm better than most, so over the years I've done so many things but never really focused on any one in particular, so it's like one year I'm this and the next year I'm that, having an idea of many good things; music, web development, a number of programming languages etc., but never an expert at any of those really nice things. The consequence is that; one, my conviction was poor, practically had none, two, my confidence was low, because I never felt confident enough with any of the skills I have, I considered myself half-baked or even "quarter-baked" at these things, so I was scared to put myself out there for the world to see. 
The problem was not that I didn't have the potential to be really awesome at one thing but that I didn't do any of those things long enough to get good at them. Didn't play the keyboard long enough, once quitted on writing, didn't code long enough to create that ad listing website I wanted even though I came so close to finishing and had learnt a lot of web programming already. I made a demo song at one time but even music, I quitted. The problem was lack of persistence.

Persistence

You see, life requires persistence. Imagine a man wanted to lumber a tree the old fashioned way that is, with a cutlass, would he strike the tree trunk all over or would he strike one spot and continue to strike that same spot until finally he cuts down the tree? You think about it. Let's look at another one, imagine if oil drillers had decided to drill a few meters deep of holes all over a suspected oil rich field expecting to find it close to the surface, didn't find it and gave up, hmm! think about it, what do you think would've happened, oil might still be lying in the belly of the earth as an untapped treasure because we didn't take the time to dig deep enough.

To arrive here, I paid close attention to my immediate environment. There are some big and fancy private schools in Agege area of Lagos, Nigeria where I live. These schools are all big and fancy now but I use to know all of these schools way back when they were nothing, they were the struggling ones. I remember one of them, Hope Dynamic Private School was once evicted from the place they were because they couldn't pay the lease, at least that's how the story went. This school is one of the biggest in the area now, with a big, fancy building, school buses and all.

The lesson of persistence hit me for the first time in my life after observing these schools. Then naturally my mind just spotted it all over the place, in people's lives, even my closest friends, families, in books, in the life our current president, president Muhammodu Buhari. After failing three times, 12 years, and with age gaining on him, spending a lot of money and effort on election campaigns, labelled a failure. I think after a time, the major contenders (presidential aspirants) don't even consider him a treat at all, but on the fourth attempt, after 16 years, he did it!

Persistent people are a stubborn set. They don't take no for an answer. They see every failure as a step closer to their goal not a draw back. They fail forward. Maybe you're just like I was, looking for that one thing that makes you special. Well I can tell you this, you're already special, you just need to do something with all your heart and persistently and soon people will see you for the special and unique person you are. Because it does take you doing the same thing over a considerable period of time before you get noticed or known for it. New businesses spring up everyday and one thing every good business man or woman knows by default is that customers don't start trooping in on day one. Some of the biggest websites today didn't even get a thousand hit per day for a long time. So you want something that makes you special? Do something you love, do what you can do and it will amaze you that after a while you'll discover yourself even more. You might turn out to be a natural at it
Success is a journey, and the road to it is bumpy and rugged, but you have to be on that road, you have to be on a road, you have to be going somewhere.

The first road might not be the one that leads to the where you're going, it's like wanting to go to the next street from your house, first you got to get out, take a direction left or right, still on your street, and most often we always have to take a turn, a left turn down the road, or maybe it's a right turn. The point is every turn puts you on a different street, with a street sign to that tells a different the name, that name is a new a path, a different road than the one you were on and that's just the way life is too.  This road is just as important as all the other roads you're going to be on on this journey called life. You most definitely have to be on it and stay on it until the end of it because it always links to the right road at the end. I know it's scary to let yourself go for a course, yeah I know I've been there, done that, but I came out and chose a path and you're just gonna have to do that too. You are just one you, you can't be on two roads at time. At least I know a lot of people can't.

Oh! wait, there is still a problem, Aahh! just kidding, don't get scared now, it shouldn't be a problem, but seriously you need to make a decision now. Don't wait too long, decide on what you believe can give you the life you want and just focus all of your mind in it. Let every decision you make from that time on be inclined with your decision made, in learning this, I called this part, making a choice, but a wise man told me it's a little more than choice, it a decision. I believe the process involves both.

Remember now, don't wait around too long in making that decision, I don't think anyone can tell with perfect certainty how much in time currency they have to invest in their dreams before it yields the result they expect. So now is that best time to start.

"Persistent people begin their success where most others quit" - John Mason

In my next post I'll be talking about how I learnt the lesson of focus. Till then, stay outa trouble, be cool, be real, be honest. Peace out.

Saturday, 28 February 2015

When Alawee stop

One year has it been? Yes one year it has been. No more "federal alawee" no more PPA, no more kaki and no more CDS. You have been hitherto called government "pikin" now all that's over. You are now on your own, yes pure "OYO" and you have to take responsibility for yourself. Yes your parents are proud of you but I'm guessing you know what that mean, in case you are still naive I'll tell you, it means reduced allowances, your clothing, your feeding to some extent and if you are a woman all of your womanly needs is now your responsibility.
You may look for work or start something with what you have right where you are. A wise man once said, if you work for someone you can feed yourself, if someone works for you, you will feed others. My whatsapp profile has been buzzing with different kinds of broadcast messages about job opportunities and recruitment here and there. It's wonderful but if you can go out there and create jobs then do it.
I guess it all depends on your dreams but whatever the case may be go out there and make history, be the impact we've been clamouring for, be punctual, be polite, love truly, be inspired, be confident, be you.


CONGRATULATIONS NYSC BATCH A 2014/2015

Tuesday, 17 February 2015

Choosing with others.

Relationships are hard work. This of course is a known fact. It's requires lots of effort and work to gain someone's trust enough for them to trust you not to break their heart. Even after that you must spend the entire relationship reassuring him or her as the case may be. Now you've worked hard and the trust has been built. You are close to the promise land in a matter of speaking suddenly you realise you haven't considered all stakeholders.


Yes stakeholders, because relationship goes beyond two. It may start with two but like everything that has life the law of growth sets in. Now though there were two of you, to take important decisions like spending your life together, it takes more than two.


Love they say is not enough. Although the two of you will live together but your world is bigger than just the two of you. In going into a relationship, you need to consider also your life with your family and friends. You need to even project into the future and consider the kind of people you'll be expecting to come into your life. Your relationship with others should be considered in making your choice.

Saturday, 17 January 2015

when you reach the summit

The bible says "the end of a matter better is than the beginning", an old adage says "the race is not the swift or the strong but him who endures to the end. A journey of a thousand mile begins with one step. So you've taken the bold step, you've heed the call and through thick and thin, through cold, wet, hot weather, enduring both favourable and unfavourable conditions, the days you ate your fill and the days you had to ration your supplies, learning to accomodate the good, the bad and the ugly. Now you are at the end, what will be your conclusion? would you be able to say "I came and saw and conquered"? will you relish a victory, a success or will it be a story of regrets, wishing you had done things dfferently?
Will you  return home a victor, knowing that you have done yourself and your family proud? or will you return a vanquished? the choice is yours really. Don't be carried away though nothing is ever really over until it is over, so if you are not at the summit yet, Congratulations! you still got time to make a difference but if you are, go ahead and celebrate you deserve it. 

Thursday, 8 January 2015

When love is not enough

What do you do when love is not enough? When the words "I love you" holds no water. What do you do when she doesn't want to be more than friends or when he's not feeling you the way you're feeling him. It's so amazing what a few weeks together can do to two people, something even more amazing is what few days apart can do to the same two people. How can you tell when she's really there or when he's wholly immersed. Does our hearts lie or are just blinded. When love is not enough, what then?

Thursday, 1 January 2015

Happy New Year


As you step into this year, i pray for you.
I pray that all the goodness of heaven will abide with you.
I pray that your dwelling place will be under the dew of heaven.
I pray that you find love, i pray that you that find fulfillment, i pray that you find peace.
I pray that you find yourself, i pray that find all you are looking for.


I just couldn't wait to scream that out to you.
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HAPPY NEW YEAR.

Wednesday, 31 December 2014

We are almost there



It's exactly 10:00 pm 31-12-2014 as at the time of writing this, in exactly two hours we will be in a brand new year. kinda make you wonder, kinda make you ask, what lies ahead? how's the coming year gonna be like. At exactly this time next year will i relish the year well spent or just go to bed early hoping to forget the year altogether. Well it's a matter of choice really. If you haven't decided that yet please do it now. A wise man once said, Doing the same thing repeatedly the same way and expecting a different result is the definition of madness. If we don't decide to be better, then circumstances would make the choice for us, and as a matter of fact a decision would have been made. Deciding not to decide is a decision, Choosing not to choose is a choice.

Happy New Year in advance.

Tuesday, 30 December 2014

2014


The countdown is on. In this moments all we have left to do is personal reflection. Is the year one to remember for the rest of your life or a memory to quickly discard? How many of your resolutions were you faithful to? Did you achieve everything you set out to do? 

I looked up 2014 on Google and there's this first part where it says 2014 trending topics, guess what we have; Ebola(epidemic), 2014 World Cup(good), ASUP Strike (terrible), Myles Munroe (death), Kefee (death). Are these what we would remember 2014 by? the deaths, the epidemics, the natural disasters. But why? Where did we get it all wrong. Is it predestination or the result of our choices? What could we have done differently?

 In a few days our marriage to year 2014 will be over and a new bride comes home. One can only but wonder what the bride will bring along. Would we come back from work and meet our food freshly prepared an waiting on the table or shall we have to live on junks? Will our children get to school timely if they go at all? What exactly can we expect from 2015? If the old saying about beds remain true then God help us we haven't laid a good bed. 

So then is there hope? i'd say YES. We can learn from our mistakes, make better choices, be our brother's keeper. We can make this world a better place to live by making ourselves better people to be with. We can protect our home from dying. We can fight corruption, we can beat the sun and win against global warming. We can beat epidemics. We can beat insurgences. We can beat terrorism. We can take back our home. We got to stop running, waiting for others to take the initiative.

We cannot loose hope, for our sake for our children sake and our children-children sake, there's a new dawn coming. There's a new horizon, HAPPY NEW YEAR in advance.


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Saturday, 27 December 2014

Breath of fresh air

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Thursday, 25 December 2014

Merry Christmas World

Wishing you lots of happiness and love this season, may your Christmas be special as you are special.

Bringing you warm wishes this Christmas, hope you have an amazing experience.

Have fun as much as you can but please put moderation into everything you do. Let there be enough chickens left in the world for next year's Christmas.

Go ahead and enjoy yourself.

Ps Alexander.